Paternity Test
Good Morning My name is Crystal. I have a life changing test i have to get done. I was raised by my parents, and was very attached to my father, and the worse happened to me, When i turned 10, my parents divorced, well 3 years later a man showed up at my grandmothers house and we were visiting her, i had seen this man before, and i talked to him , and my mother said "Crystal, i have something to tell you this is your real father. " Than she asked me if i was mad, now at 13 how mad can a child really become, i was more confused than anything. Well i was ok i went and stayed with him every other weekend like a normal child would, but i had the other guys last name on my birth certificate. 7 years of time that i had spent with this man. i had lots of fun with him and loved him very much, well one day i asked my mother why havent i seen him it had been 2 weeks or so, since the last time i seen him, The next day my mother came to my house and he had died, he drowned saving a little boys life. I thoiught that was wonderful, that he had saved the boy, but tragic that he had lost his life. Now i am 27 years old about to get married, and it still ponders in my head that this man, that is supposed to be my father, and it has never been proven, The other guy has came back into my life and says he is my father, im torn between 2 men, and i want and answer. The discussion i want to hear is, i want some one to walk me down the isle, when i get married, but i want to know who my real father is. It would not be right if the wrong guy done this. Any ways, I asked my mother for a Dna test, and she is kinda mad about this, but at 13 what do you really say??? I was a child. I told my mother she should pay for it, I dont see where it should be on me to pay for, i did not make this mistake, and she wont she thinks i should have to pay for it, Now what do you guys think about all this? Who should pay for this test, and should i question my mother? Pleas help, i just want proof??
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Permalink Reply by Crystal Scott on -
We used to be close but she ahs changed alot over the past few years, b/c her and her husband went through an emaotinal time together, and after that she ahs all of a sudden decided that we are not her problem adn we are on our own for everything and it is her time to spoil her self, and out of the 5 of us, im the only one who speaks to her, maybe once or twice a week. And i ahve a brother in Afghan and he wont even speak to her. I dont really understand why she wouldnt do this for me, I believe i ahve the righ to know
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Permalink Reply by Crystal Scott on
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yes, that is my baby he is 9 months old and i believe he should be avle to know where he came from also. It just hurts not knowing.
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Permalink Reply by Crystal Scott on
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yes this is true there could be some really bad health issues that could happen if i do not know. It helps to talk bout it all, but i think about it all the time wondering if i grew up with my father or lived a big fat lie all my child hood, and my father never go tot see me raised except through pictures. It is not fair to live this way..
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Permalink Reply by Crystal Scott on
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I have been talking to her about this since last christmas, and i still cannot tlak her into doing this, i wish i knew an easyier way to tell her how badly i wna this done.
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Permalink Reply by The names Kylie... Smiley Kylie on -
its hard to read what u are saying because it is all so mistyped and misspelled... but i mean i guess you cant make her pay for it, even though she should because she is the one who helped cause all of the confusion
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Permalink Reply by Maria on -
Well Kylie I don't think Crystal was asking for a critique of her writing. That wasn't nice or helpful.
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Permalink Reply by Crystal Scott on
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Sorry it is so mistyped didnt know that you would pay more attention to my typing than my problem. I was in a hurry to type this, so if you cant read it why try?? I dont need a critique, here i asked for help.
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Permalink Reply by Crystal Scott on
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There i fixed most of it. I didnt want a very long drawn out story, so i tried to keep it as short as possible.
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Permalink Reply by The names Kylie... Smiley Kylie on
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uhh chill i was just saying... u asked for help but if people can barely understand what youre talking about you might not get all the help you need. its hard not to pay attention to it when it takes time to figure out what some of the words are
oh and ps.... there was advice (or sort of) in my comment
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Permalink Reply by Maria on
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Crystal, it sounds like you aren't going to change your mother's mind so maybe you should focus on the man who says he is your father. If he came back into your life maybe he would be willing to pay for a paternity test.
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Permalink Reply by Crystal Scott on
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Yeah i dont hink im going to get her to do anything really. The guy that says he is my father, i ahte to do that to him b/c he is so hell bent on being my dad i wouldnt really want to break his heart by asking him this.But it looks like that is what it is going to take, i guess i have no other choice. Thanks for your response.
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Permalink Reply by Crystal Scott on
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Thanks that helps alot. I know i ahve options, but i think whats killing me the most is not knowing?? You know i would love to know who my dad is as would any body. For now i have just let it go, fo rht esimple fact i have been searching and it is not cheep to have this odne, the cheapest i ahve found it to be is 450 dollars. That is outragous, i dont see how they could charge that much for that, but hey thay have to get paid just like me.
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