Zine Scene: Get Your Guy to Listen

How to Get Your Guy To Listen

Why does it seem like we are always talking in one ear and out the other when it comes to our men? Did u ever think that maybe it's not that they don’t care at all…it’s just that men process information much differently than women. So if our words get lost in translation then the answer is learning to speak his language!

-Talk side by side
I know that when I’m mad, I want to sit down across from eachother, demand eye contact and hash it out. Wrong wrong wrong. Avoid a face-to-face conversation. Insisting on eye contact can actually make the problem worse. It can make him feel threatened and instantly put him on the defense.
Solution: Sit NEXT to him, side by side while you’re doing something like eating, driving, or on a walk.

Cut to the chase
Did u guys know that the male brain interprets men's voices as speech and women's voices as music.? To ensure that he hangs on your every word, make your point as quickly as possible. Use phrases like 'Here's why I'm upset' or 'The bottom line is this.'"

Let him know you need to vent
Guys just want to “solve” the problem. They want to find a solution rather than just listen to you. Try prefacing your story with "I just really need to get this off my chest." By telling him what you expect up front, he'll know what to do and be able to give you what you really want: his ear.

Stroke his ego
Butter him up more. Men are competitive, and compliments help them feel important. Let's say he never hangs out with your friends. Feed his ego by saying something like "You're so funny! Actually, my friends could use some cheering up. Can you come out with us tonight?" You want to make him feel needed!