One-Sided Sibling Relationships

We’re reading some love letters! A writer says her friend’s husband follows a lot of Only Fans accounts. He disappeared from Instagram and is now back, and yes, he’s following the accounts again. Should she tell her friend?

A writer lost her husband in 2017. She needed help from her brother and he wasn’t there for her. It was painful that he couldn’t be there for her when she’s been there for him. Now, he’s asking for help. How should she handle this?