As I was watching “The Bachelor” the other night, I kinda related to some of those guys more than I thought than I would. The reason is that they dated a girl for a few weeks or months and some of them had genuine feelings for her. That kinda reminds me of my situation. Honey #3 was a girl that I only dated a few months but I really liked her. Sure, in the end, she didn’t treat me as nice as I would have liked, but I still can’t say that she was a bad person. She wasn’t. She just wasn’t where I was as far as being ready for a relationship.

And even though in the past, I have had serious issues talking one on one to girls, I seem to be getting better. At least I was with her. She stopped by numerous times and we talked a LOT… just the two of us. It was actually pretty easy talking to her. I kind of surprised myself. And surprisingly, I listened to what she said. We spent time one on one quite a bit just sitting around talking. It wasn’t all about getting busy! (KIDD)

She is a very sweet girl and I can’t say a bad word about her. I just got all caught up. Maybe it’s “The Bachelor’s” fault. We, (the male viewers), see these amazing dates and how they seem to walk out with smiles on the girls’ faces and we feel like we need to do something to compete with that. (at least I did.)  So why not buy an impromptu Business Class ticket to Mexico or tickets to Six Flags because she said she likes roller coasters, or dinner at a nice restaurant or send her some flowers, or get her a nice necklace in the Blue box or get her a haircut from a nice salon or spend some time and money putting together a weekend that includes a cool hotel suite or a helicopter ride? It ALWAYS seems to work on “The Bachelor”, right? And if it’s someone that makes you happy, and it was, I say go for it…and I DID!

I like doing nice stuff for the person that I’m dating. It really doesn’t matter if I’ve been dating the person 1 month or 1 year. Why wait until you have been dating someone for a year until you do something nice for them? What if they do treat you like crap after? I would rather know that after a month or two than wait for a year and find that out. Maybe my way of looking at that, is not the normal, but that doesn’t make it wrong. I like doing things a little different. Maybe a little spontaneous. Maybe it’s a little over the top…Whatever you want to call it, it’s the way I roll and I’m not going to change it. Actually, If I had it to do over, I can’t really say that I’d change one single thing. I liked her a LOT. Actually, I still do. I did tell her how I felt and I tried my best to show her. I don’t really see a problem with what I did.

The ending of the saga is that “Honey 3/Nu Chick” said the she read my blog and she feels like she should get the award for “the worse date ever.” I would agree with that. Contrary to the way it has sounded, she is an awesome girl. She is kind, she is sweet. She is just hung up on her EX! If anyone is at fault here, it’s me. I’m guilty of getting all wrapped up and going so far overboard that it made it impossible for her to breathe and I probably even stressed her out a little bit. About a week ago, She did tell me that she wasn’t quite ready for a relationship. And what did I do? I tried even harder. I thought what I was doing was helping her to be  “relationship ready.”  Actually, I did the opposite. Why are relationships so difficult? Ok, maybe I would change what I did a little.

In other events. Edith is in town. She came in town today from Mexico. Edith is the manager of my bar in in Playa del Carmen and she is visiting for a week and she’s staying at my house with me. I’m not sure what she will do other than shop a lot. That’s pretty much all she does while she’s here. Usually, when she comes into town, she will hang out with the girl that I am dating. But since Honey #3 never made it to Mexico and it seems like we are pretty much over anyway, I guess Edith is stuck with me.

As I was watching “The Bachelor” the other night, I kinda related to some of those guys more than I thought than I would. The reason is that they dated a girl for a few weeks or months and some of them had genuine feelings for her. That kinda reminds me of my situation. Honey #3 was a girl that I only dated a few months but I really liked her. Sure, in the end, she didn’t treat me as nice as I would have liked, but I still cant say that she was a bad person. She wasn’t. She just wasn’t where I was as far as being ready for a relationship.

And even though in the past, I have had serious issues talking one on one to girls, I seem to be getting better. At least I was with her. she stopped by numerous times and we talked a LOT… just the two of us. It was actually pretty easy talking to her. I kind of surprised myself. And surprisingly, I listened to what she said. We spent time one on one quite a bit just sitting around talking. It wasn’t all about getting busy! (KIDD)

She is a very sweet girl and I can’t say a bad word about her. I just got all caught up. Maybe it’s “The Bachelor’s” fault. We, (the male viewers), see these amazing dates and how they seem to walk out with smiles on the girls faces and we feel like we need to do something to compete with that. (at least I did.)  So why not buy an impromptu Business Class ticket to Mexico or tickets to Six Flags because she said she likes roller coasters, or dinner at a nice restaurant or send her some flowers, or get her a nice necklace in the Blue box or get her a haircut from a nice salon or spend some time and money putting together a weekend that includes a cool Hotel Suite or a helicopter ride? It ALWAYS seems to work on “The Bachelor”, right? And if its someone that makes you happy, and it was, I say go for it…and I DID!

I like doing nice stuff for the person that I’m dating. It really doesn’t matter if I’ve been dating the person 1 month or 1 year. Why wait until you have been dating someone for a year until you do something nice for them? What if they do treat you like crap after? I would rather know that after a month or two than wait for a year and find that out. Maybe my way of looking at that, is not the normal, but that doesn’t make it wrong. I like doing things a little different. Maybe a little spontaneous. Maybe it’s a little over the top…Whatever you want to call it, it’s the way I roll and I’m not going to change it. Actually, If I had it to do over, I can’t really say that I’d change one single thing. I liked her a LOT. Actually, I still do. I did tell her how I felt and I tried my best to show her. I don’t really see a problem with what I did.

The ending of the saga is that “Honey 3/Nu Chick” said the she read my blog and she feels like she should get the award for “the worse date ever.” I would agree with that. Contrary to the way it has sounded, she is an awesome girl. She is kind, she is sweet. She is just hung up on her EX! If anyone is at fault here, its me. I’m guilty of getting all wrapped up and going so far overboard that it made it impossible for her to breathe and I probably even stressed her out a little bit. About a week ago, She did tell me that she wasn’t quite ready for a relationship. And what did I do? I tried even harder. I thought what I was doing was helping her to be  “relationship ready.”  Actually, I did the opposite. Why are relationships so difficult? Ok, maybe I would change what I did a little.

In other events. Edith is in town. She came in town today from Mexico. Edith is the manager of my bar in in Playa del Carmen and she is visiting for a week and she’s staying at my house with me. I’m not sure what she will do other than shop a lot. That’s pretty much all she does while she’s here. Usually, when she comes into town, she will hang out with the girl that I am dating. But since Honey 3 never made it to Mexico and it seems like we are pretty much over anyway, I guess Edith is stuck with me.